Welcome to the Kina Room aka Kurdistan!

Lachlan, this was the first day I met you and I was struck in the morning by how you
solemnly watched everything. Your eyes were wide open and watching, watching, watching.
When I checked with Mandy, I learned that you have been in the Kina room for only a short
time. In the afternoon I decided to take some time observing you as you explored this new
environment and the resources and people in it, and I was struck by the fact that it is
probably very hard for us adults to really appreciate how it might actually be for you.

It occurred to me that if I got dropped by parachute into Kurdistan (and that I have never
travelled abroad before in my life!), I might get a glimpse of what Lachlan experiences.
Imagine that this was an unanticipated event, that one cannot speak the language, that the
natives do not understand most of my sign language, that one knows nothing of the
customs, the social dynamics, the routines, the expectations, and there are numerous other
foreigners who do not share a common language, and some of whom are a bit distressed
and sometimes weepy.

I imagine that I too would simply solemnly stare, overwhelmed with the amount of stuff
that I am presented with and need to process; gathering data, noticing patterns, creating
working theories etc. I would definitely need a sense of belonging and wellbeing, before I
might consider exploring, playing, communicating and contributing. Or smiling much.
And this is why I trailed Lachlan with my camera, occasionally interacting and responding.
He became aware of my presence, my friendly interest in his activities and he increasingly
included me in his gaze and we shared some moments of playful pleasure. And by the time,
Dad came to pick you up and play for a while as well, Lachlan, you were clearly experiencing
a greater degree of wellbeing and connection, and I also felt I knew you a bit better.

It was an absolute pleasure to observe your earnest interest in the toys, the other children,
the building and driving challenges, and the way you explored various possible uses of
resources. I shared your pleasure too as you made a friendly connection with Kaeden, and I
empathised with you as you stared up at Kelvin, who must have looked huge and slightly
daunting from where you stood.

In all, my time ‘tracking’ and taking photos produced in me a feeling of awe with regards to
your resilience, your courage, your determination, your resourcefulness and your clear
instinct to find those things which you are nourished by……….play, connection, exploration,
friends, relationship, things with wheels, things you can pull, things to climb on to, and fall
off (but no tears!! ) playfulness, freedom to make choices ( make believe cooking or pulling
a vehicle? make believe cooking AND a vehicle ? ) and a feeling of belonging and well being.

It was only a 20 to 30 minute time frame but I felt I knew you so much better by the end of
that time (and it was a hard day in that it was raining all day and two other boys were
frequently expressing their lack of appreciation for being airlifted into Kurdistan
themselves). I take my hat off to you, Lachlan, and it was a privilege to observe you
managing your situation with such aplomb and dignity.
(Recorded by Evelyn. June 2013)